You call yourself lazy. Tell yourself you should be productive right now. You should go for a walk and stay active. Stop snacking. I mean, I can go on and on. At this point you feel that this “pandemic” has left you no control over your life. You are going on a downward spiral. You have no idea how you are going to get out of this position. At first you have no time so you couldn’t do what is good for you. Eating healthy and exercising. Now that you do have the time, why is it that you still can’t get yourself to do it? Could it be that you are really just lazy? Could it be because gyms are closed? Could it be your excuses? It could be many things to be honest.
I know one thing is for sure, you are not going to get yourself to do it by beating yourself up. You have been doing that since this quarantine started. Heck! You have been doing it since you wanted to get in shape.
I know I sound negative right now but please bear with me. I was in the same position as you.
I am not writing this to get you pumped up or motivated. I am not talking to you to say that your excuses are the one’s getting in your way. You have heard it over, and over again. Everyone telling you that it’s about mindset or that you just need to develop the right habits and that consistency is key. I want to dive deeper than that. I am writing this because I genuinely want to help you. Why? Because I know what it feels like to not have control over your health. To feel like the journey ahead is long and hard. That the goal is so out of reach. That the expectations are so high that they cannot be met. This makes you feel puny and powerless, so why start when you can enjoy all that is around you right now? Why go the hard way when you can just stay here, where it’s comfortable. So what is your reason? Why do you want to be in shape in the first place?
And please, don’t give yourself some vanilla bullshit answer that it’s because you want to be healthier or that you want to feel good in your body. You have said this before and you are still in the same physical state. Whatever your reason is, it ain’t good enough because A, it’s not moving you, or B, you don’t remind yourself often enough why you’re doing this in the first place.
I say this out of love and my intention is not to put you down.
But that is the first step right there. Ask yourself what your reason is. Ask yourself more than once. Ask yourself 7 times.
Why? because I want to be healthier. Why be healthier? I want to feel good in my body. Why feel good? I want to be comfortable in my skin. Why be comfortable? Because I hate looking at myself. I want to love what I see. Why love what you see? So other’s can love what I see. Why should other’s love what you see? Because I want to share my creation. Why share? I want them to understand me. I want to feel connected Don’t just stop at 7. Keep going until you feel an emotion. Until you start bursting into tears. That is when you know you have a reason. That is where you will find the fuel every single day to do what you need to do even if you don’t feel like doing it. This is your first step and it is the only step you should be focusing on. You cannot take the second step without the first. If you try, you will fall and you know this. Don’t worry about the goal, the year, the month, the week, the day or the second step. Get the first step done first. Your expectations are killing your progress and your punishments to yourself are not necessary. If you have made the decision to do this then literally do it now. Don’t say later or tomorrow. Take action now. A decision is not solidified without an action being made, so if you are serious about getting your life together then pause here, and take action. You don’t have to finish just do something. Put a reminder that you will do the exercise, schedule it in the calendar or just start the first why. Remember a true decision is made in the mind followed by physical action. Now, if you have done it then I applaud you. Congratulations, you just took the first step.
If you haven’t then you just don’t want it bad enough and that’s okay, you have other important things at hand. It’s okay to not want it. Sometimes these expectations are not ours and by beating ourselves up about things we don’t want we make our lives a living hell.
What I am saying sounds counter intuitive, I know. The reason I say this is because you probably have been telling yourself what you should and shouldn’t be doing for a long time now. As human beings we go through about 70,000 thoughts per day. Imagine 90% of those thoughts are of you nagging at yourself of your do’s and don’ts. Majority of your thoughts are negative self talk.
No wonder you don’t take any action. It’s like having a boss you don’t like that’s always telling you what to do. I don’t know about you but I hate being told what to do.
Now what I’m about to say will sound like some silly and soft but entertain this idea for a second, be open to it because it may be the thing that can change you.
Imagine, if your boss or someone you know that you feel doesn’t appreciate your hard work comes up to and says...
“Hey, I just wanted to say that......I am very sorry that I have been nagging you and bossing you around all these years. I know I haven’t been my best around you or showed my appreciation but the truth is that I do see your hard work. I want to say thank you for the time and effort you have put throughout the time we have been working together. Please accept my gratitude and apology. You have always been there for me and now I want to be there for you. From the deepest parts of my heart, thank you”.
Here is the kicker, take those words and imagine you said that to yourself. You heard right. Say it to yourself. You have been punishing the person within you for the longest time. Everyday you hurt you with all that negative self abuse. Isn’t it time to make peace and start healing? Wouldn’t you do the same to someone you love? Your spouse, parents, siblings and friends? Why not do the same for you?
You know it’s true. Thank you for taking the time to work on bettering yourself and for the time you took to read my message. There is a great quote that goes “If you want to get there faster then do it yourself but if you want to get farther then do it together”. We would love to support you and teach you all that you need to overcome and accomplish your goals. We want to offer our hand by giving you a 30 day free trial of our Pro Wellness Program. This Program is designed for you to find a sustainable approach to your health and fitness so you can finally have the final solutions. Click HERE to get started. Once again, thank you.